How do sensitive people cross energetic boundaries?

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One of my favourite ways of learning about energetic boundaries is through nature. A beautiful example of this when chicks are hatching. 

A baby chick struggles to hatch from its egg while other chicks have already broken through their eggs and are wobbling around on their unsteady little feet. A well-meaning empath leans in to break away some of the egg shell to make the struggle for the baby chick easier. But the more experienced chicken farmer stops her, with a reminder that the chick’s struggle is an essential step in it becoming a healthy and strong full-grown chicken.  

A baby chick was struggling to break free of the egg that contained it. All of the other chicks had broken through their eggs and were learning to stand on their own little feet. Mandy had stopped by to witness this awesome chick hatching at her friend Shirley’s farm. As she saw the brave little chick fighting for its life, Mandy leaned forward to break away some of its shell to help it. Shirley stopped her, reminding Mandy that the chick’s struggle was the most important stage of it becoming healthy and strong. Empaths and highly sensitive people are often the victims of boundary over-stepping. Our sensitivities are our super powers, like energetic antennae that allow us to tune into the feelings and emotions of our loved ones. And this can extend to total strangers and people who are suffering on the other side of the world. But sometimes we – the sensitive empathic ones – can be the ones crossing the boundaries. Rather than registering the hurt of another person, we can over-identify with them and their pain. This can lead us to taking on the responsibility of others as our own.

As empaths and highly sensitive people, we easily tune into the feelings and emotions of those who are struggling. This includes our loved ones, people we know, and even total strangers. We are particularly sensitive to animals and birds, especially vulnerable little chicks who are hanging on by a thread!

Our sensitivities are our superpowers. These superpowers can make us susceptible to parasitic relationships where we are helping others but being harmed in return. But there are also times we are guilty of crossing the energetic boundaries of others.

Rather than just registering the hurt of another person, we can over-identify with them and their pain. This is when we can cross boundaries and take on the responsibility of others as our own.

How healthy boundaries work

This image shows our personal healthy boundaries as a series of nested circles. Each of us sits within the pink circle – at the centre of the graphic. That is our personal area of influence.

Personal-boundaries

But what happens when we start acting outside of our area of influence?

This can be dangerous ground boundary-wise. While we might be relieving the pain of another person, we can also be preventing them from working through their own life lessons.

Learning our life lessons

Did you know it can take up to 24 hours for a chick to break out of its egg?! That is a long time! And in that time, the chick is learning lessons and developing muscles that will equip it for its life outside of the egg.

Each of us has important life lessons to learn. And as we learn these lessons, we are like little chicks hatching out of our eggs.

When you are a sensitive person, it can be challenging to sit back and watch your loved ones, acquaintances and even your clients working through their life lessons.

If we step in, we can be preventing our people from growing and reaching their potential. So what can we be doing to help our loved ones rather than by stepping in and taking on their pain?

How can we help our loved ones without taking over?

We can support our loved ones in many ways! We can:  

  • come alongside them face-to-face and let them talk through their feelings and emotions,
  • reach out virtually through a phone call or online chat, 
  • pray for them, and
  • send loving and supportive energies to them energetically.

Would you like some help?

Are you a sensitive person or healer who finds it difficult to watch your loved ones or clients struggle? I can help you to gain clarity and perspective around your relationships. We do this by looking deeper into your bigger picture soul journey and past life relationships.

If you feel I can help, book in for a free 20-minute Get-To-Know-You Chat with me to see if we are an energetic match. If you would like to start working together sooner, feel free to book in for a session through my online calendar.